Welcome to episode 6 of Divorce Thrive I am Wendy Rovers, Your coach and thinking partner. I help moms transition through divorce with grace.
What is your story?
With everything that is going on right now in your life, what is the divorce story that you are telling to yourself and to everyone you speak with?
"Why did he do this to me? He will never see the kids. What am I going to do with the kids? Where are we going to live? Am I going to be able to stay in the house? Do I have enough money? I'm not working right now. I'm a stay at home mom. I work 60 hours a week, how am I going to manage things? My identity as a wife, partner, lover, friend has all changed and now I don’t know who I am."
What is your story? The story of divorce is a murky, messy, muddy, emotional and traumatic experience, and as a result this story can take over your life and leave you feeling unable to move forward.
It is hard to figure out where to start, your emotions overwhelm you and block your ability to think which makes it very difficult to make good choices and good decisions. Living in the divorce story prevents you from thinking clearly and prevents you from being able to make rational decisions.
Do you have someone in your life who can help you get out of the story of you? A coach, a thinking partner, a mentor, someone who can help you to think differently than you are thinking right now?
You need someone who can help you think through all the things that need to be done. To help you get organized and move forward one step at a time, someone who will be there for you to disrupt the story that you are telling yourself.
Our stories limit us. Our stories are often the voices in our heads that are telling us what we can’t do. ‘You're not smart enough for that.’ ‘Watch out!’ ‘Wait!’ ‘Stay quiet!’ ‘You've never done this before.’ ‘What makes you think you're right here?’ ‘You can’t do this.’
You are not alone if you're thinking ‘I'm not able’, ‘I'm not capable’, ‘I'm not strong enough’, ‘I can't do this’. Know that you have learned your story along the way.
You've learned your story from someone, or you’ve made it up along the way yourself. The really great news is that your story can be changed.
Your story is internalized and has become the voice of authority in your life. It is leading the way that you act, what you say and how you are showing up in the world. Your story is leading and guiding you to make the choices that you make.
Your story can become one of possibility, one of empowerment, one of light, love, peace, happiness, and joy. Even though this may seem impossible right now, your story can be whatever you want your story to be.
So how does anyone transition through divorce with grace? How does anyone get through this murky, messy, muddy, difficult transition, and come out on the other side with a smile on their face, with love in their life and with a conviction that they are okay and their children will be okay?
Inspiration is the key. If you have someone in your life who can inspire you to do things just a little bit differently or inspire you to see things a little bit differently and shed new light on your situation, you will begin to shift your perspective and try new things. You will grow the confidence in yourself with every small step that you take and begin to feel a new sense of power, purpose and meaning in your life.
This is where your story can shift. And it is possible. You can create a new story.
New story. New life.
Thanks for being here today, I hope to inspire you and to let you know that you are not alone. Also to remind you that you are enough!
Cheers to you first!
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