Thriving Solo: Empowering Steps to Redefine, Rebuild, and Embrace Your New Beginning

Join me as I discuss thriving during the divorce process as well as recovering from divorce. In this episode, I reveal some of my proven secrets to enhance your entire life, relationships, and self-image. Learn how to effectively become more positive, which importantly, will offer a solid example for your children and foster a further transformation in important aspects of your post-divorce journey.

How do you come back from divorce? Sometimes you need to make a difficult decision that will break your heart but bring you peace. I'm going to share with you five areas in your life where you can begin to make small changes that will have a huge positive impact on your life during and after divorce.

1: Fitness

Your physical fitness, mental fitness, and spiritual fitness are important. We are spiritual beings with a mind, a will, an intellect, and an imagination, living in a physical body. Many people spend a lot of time focused on only their physical body, wanting to look good, to wear the right clothes that look good on you, and to be the right size. Often we forget about our mental fitness and our spiritual fitness. So you can look really good on the outside, but inside, things are not in the best shape. If your spiritual, mental, and physical fitness are not doing well, you're not able to make the best decisions for yourself and for your family. When you're transitioning through divorce, you've got to make some difficult decisions. It's best if you know who you are and you're working on these three areas of your life. It's ideal if you have them all figured out, but that's unrealistic. It's best if you at least know about them and you're working at improving each of these areas of your life one step at a time. Once all these aspects of your life start to improve, you'll notice that your whole life starts to improve. Your relationship with yourself improves. Your relationship with others improves. Your relationship at work, with your other parent, with your children. It all just slowly gets better. And the example that you're setting for your children? Well, that's a bonus because it's a great example to set.

2: Your Family 

What's your relationship with your family? This can be your mom and dad, your children, their other parent, or close friends that you consider family. Where is there room for improvement? Do you honor your mother and your father? The relationships that we have are examples that we're setting for our children. So if you want your children to honor you, they're going to be looking at how you honor your parents, your close friends, your family, and the people that you love in your life. 

3: Your Money and Your Money Story

Do you understand your financial situation? What do you need to learn? Where do you need to grow in this area? What do you need to learn about investing, saving, spending, earning, and giving? Are you working with a financial planner? When you have your finances in order and you are financially independent, this creates freedom in your life and opens space in your life for other great things to come in. When you are anxious about your finances, and worried about your money in a scarcity mindset, there's no room for anything else. 

4: Giving

Where are you giving in your life? Where are you giving your time? Where are you giving your money? Your attention, your love? There's something that I learned over the years in my life when I really need something, when I need money or I need love or I need a hug, or I'm feeling lonely, the best thing that I can do for myself is to give that to someone else. When I do that, it gives me what I need. The more you give, the more that comes back to you. 

5: Laughter and Fun

You can't smile and be angry at the same time. You can't feel gratitude and feel upset at the same time. So when you're feeling angry when you're feeling pessimistic. When you're feeling sad, when you're feeling upset, change that channel in your mind and decide to feel grateful. Smile. This will make a huge difference in your life. If you can have fun, if you can laugh at yourself, if you can laugh at your circumstance, if you can see some kind of lightness and fun in your situation, you're going to bring more of that into your life.

If you are considering divorce or transitioning through divorce or you're not sure how you're ever going to do this, but, you know, divorce is the right choice for you and your family. I've created a free mini-course to help you get the clarity you need in this process.

So remember, you are worthy, you are loved, and you belong. 

Wendy

xoxo