Welcome to Episode 7 - Divorce Thrive. My name is Wendy Rovers. Your coach and thinking partner, I inspire moms to transition through divorce with grace.
If you are considering divorce or transitioning through divorce right now, you may be working with experts such as a coach, a lawyer, a therapist, a mediator, a parenting planner, or a financial planner.
I've been asked ‘Why hire a divorce coach?’ A divorce coach is your thinking partner. Someone who will help you with your goals and help you to create outcomes. A divorce coach will focus on your future and help you to focus on your best self. They will guide you to explore who you want to be right now, who you want to be 10 years from now, and who you want to be 40 years from now. They will guide you to make the best decisions and the best choices for you and your family right now.
Divorce is a very difficult time. It is normal to feel suffering, loss, blame, hurt, sadness, confusion, shame, and overwhelmed. A divorce coach will be there to empathize with you; listen to you, and shine a light on your best self so you can make best choices for right now and for your future self. Now you may be thinking; "I have friends and family that can listen to me and help me out." That is amazing! Having community, family, and friends to lean on during difficult times makes you one of the lucky ones.
But there is only so much they will be able to do for you or give to you. Isn’t it unfair of you to expect them to be able to give you all of what you need?
They can help drive your kids to school or babysit from time to time, or make you a dinner. Go for a coffee, watch a movie, go for a walk and just hang out together, but if you are continuing to burden them with all of your troubles, and they have given you all that they can, then how receptive will they be the next time you call? You may notice your friendships slipping away and I know this is not what you want.
A divorce coach can provide you with the space to think, to be your authentic self, to really listen to and understand what you want. You are the expert in your life. You know, and only, you know, what is best for you and best for your children and best for your family.
Other people, friends and family, have ideas and best intentions. You can Google information but only you know what is best for your unique situation. A divorce coach will empathize with you and shine a light on your best self, even if that light is very dim right now. Together you can work through financial agreements, parenting plans, questions that you have, your feelings and emotions. They will be future focused and provide you with the tools and strategies that you need right now.
I know that you want to look back, years from now, and say ‘Wow, we did it!’. The kids are okay. My family is okay. Dad's okay. We are a family, and we are proud of how we have handled everything along the way. That is what I wanted for my family. This is what I work hard at and this is what I am most proud of.
And this is what I want for you…I want you to transition through divorce with grace.
Thanks for being here today, I hope to inspire you and to let you know that you are not alone. Also to remind you that you are enough!
Cheers to you first!
Ps. If you are ready to transition through divorce with grace then click below and start the process of requesting your free discovery call with me!