Welcome to episode eleven of Divorce Thrive. My name is Wendy Rovers, I am your coach and thinking partner; I inspire moms to transition through divorce with grace.
What does it mean to transition through divorce with grace?
For me, grace is a practice. It is a way of being, slowing down and considering how I show up in the world.
The reason I decided to talk about grace, and the reason I inspire people to transition through divorce with grace, is because this is how I aspire to be in my own world.
So, what does grace mean to me?
It means letting go of what other people say or do that negatively impacts my life. I cannot control what other people say or do. I can only control what I say and do, and how I react and interact with others.
Grace starts with me.
It starts with my being kind and compassionate to myself when I mess up or when I don't act in a way that I'm real proud of. When I have not acted as my best self I try to give myself grace and learn from the experience.
Grace is accepting people for who they are, without judging them or trying to change them. Accepting other people’s similarities and differences and looking for the best in them.
Grace is about being mindful of how I show up in the world, what I say, how I speak, and how I act. It's about considering how I want to feel about my life ten, twenty, thirty years from now...
Will I look back with pride, happiness, and respect for how I showed up?
Grace is having compassion for others. When I don't think that someone is treating me fairly, I remind myself that I don't know their situation. I don't know what they are going through in their life. I can choose to be kind and understanding.
Grace is apologizing. When I know I have done something wrong, or hurt someone unintentionally, I reach out and I apologize. I do what I can to make amends.
Grace is about having a sense of humour. Divorce is one of the most difficult times in any person’s life and it can be tough to laugh. But sometimes a good laugh is better than a good cry. I've always found humour to help me get through difficult times.
Grace is about practicing gratitude every day. When the going gets tough it is especially important to remember what you have in your life to be grateful for.
Grace is a way of being in this world. It is not about perfection. Have I made mistakes? Yes, too many to count. Did I learn from my mistakes? Did I try to make amends? Do I continue to be better than I was yesterday?
Grace is simply being aware of your best self and living your life in that way. (most of the time☺)
Laugh! Be compassionate with yourself and others, forgive, learn, grow and laugh some more!
Thanks for being here today, I hope to inspire you and to let you know that you are not alone. Also to remind you that you are enough!
Cheers to you first!
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