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The Secret to Navigating Divorce

Are you afraid of making the wrong choice, saying the wrong thing or taking the wrong action?

Today, I wanted to share a poem with you called “Fire” by Judy Brown.

What makes a fire burn is space between the logs, a breathing space. Too much of a good thing, too many logs packed in too tight can douse the flames almost as surely as a pail of water would.

So building fires requires attention to the spaces in between, as much as to the wood.

When we are able to build open spaces in the same way we have learned to pile on the logs, then we can come to see how it is fuel, and absence of the fuel together, that make fire possible.

We only need to lay a log lightly from time to time.

A fire grows simply because the space is there, with openings in which the flame that knows just how it wants to burn can find its way.

Silence offers the space between words in our life, A pause, a momentary silence for reflection, and a soft, gentle breath of air. Adding life to our words.

Have you given space to yourself to think?

Life gets so busy. Even in the good times, we're just doing acting, speaking, saying, running, moving, shaking, this, that, this, that, and then in the challenging times, the time that you're going through right now, it's even more hectic and it's more important now than ever to give yourself some space. It's the space between the logs. It's the space that you give yourself now in your life.

The time to reflect. The time to think. The time to slow down, so that you can show up and be the person that you know you should be right now. You can look back 10, 20 years from now and say, “You know what? That was the most difficult time of my life and boy, did I handle that well.”

Now, more than ever, you need to give yourself a bit of space to create the rest of your life, rather than reacting to everything that's thrown at you. There's going to be a lot of everything. There's going to be a lot of stuff thrown your way. There's going to be a lot of questions, uncertainty, sadness, overwhelm, and emotions pouring in and out of you.

There's going to be a lot of stress. There's a lot of change. Give yourself some space so that you can show up and be the most awesome person that you know you are. You can do this divorce. You can move through this transition with grace, with love, with clarity. Then you can look back and feel so proud about who you were during this time.

That's what I want for you. And always remember, no matter what, that you are worthy, you are loved and you are perfect just the way that you are.

And until next time, here's to you first!




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