If you are considering divorce or transitioning through divorce right now, you may be working with experts such as a lawyer, a therapist, a mediator, or a parenting planner. You might want to consider working with a divorce coach as well.
I've been asked, “why hire a divorce coach?”
A divorce coach is your thinking partner. Someone who will help you with your goals, and help you to create outcomes. They will help you focus on your future and your best self and help you to make the best decisions during divorce when there's so much blame, hurt, sadness, confusion, and overwhelm. A divorce coach will be there to empathize with you, listen to you, and shine that light on your best self so you can make the best choices.
Now you may be thinking, well, “I have friends. I have family that can listen to me and help me out. I talk to them all the time. My dad gives me great advice. My mom's there for me too.”
That's super. But if you don't have family and you don't have friends, remember, you're not alone. Many people don't have family and friends that they can lean on during this time.
Whether you have them or not, there's only so much they can do for you. There's only so much they can help you with. They don't understand all of the details, all of what you're going through. They don't understand your pains or all the little things that you have to deal with every single day, from finances to your kids.
But you can lean on them when they offer to drive your kids to school or to bring dinner over, or when they offer to babysit so you can have some time to yourself or to get things done. But if you keep burdening them with all of what you're going through, it's not that they don't love you, they just aren't going to be able to give you what you need. They only know what they know.
A divorce coach can provide you with the space to think, to be your authentic self, and to really listen to and understand what you want. You're the expert in your life. Only you know what is best for you, best for your children and your family going forward.
A divorce coach will shine a light on your best self. They will work through financial agreements with you. They will work through the questions that you have. They will work through your feelings and emotions, providing you with tools, and strategies that will help you to make the best choices with a focus on your future, who you are, and who you want to be in the future for yourself and for your family.
Someday, you’ll be able to look back and say “We all made it through this. We're proud of how we handled things.”
My own divorce journey was the reason why I chose to become a divorce coach. I knew that there was only so much my friends and family, who loved me a lot, could do for me. If you feel like you are in a similar situation, you can schedule a call with me. I help women go through divorce gracefully and build a positive space for themselves and their families during this time.
Remember, you are strong, you are capable, and you are not alone.
Wendy
xoxo
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