What is grace?
Grace is a practice. It's not something we ever reach in full. It's a way of being, a way of slowing down, considering how we show up in the world.
The reason I decided to talk about grace and the reason that I decided to create this whole business around inspiring moms to transition through divorce with grace, is because grace is how I have aspired to be in my world and I want to share with you what grace means to me.
It means letting go of what other people say or do that may impact me and affect me negatively. Letting go of trying to control other people's behaviors because we all know that's impossible. Grace starts with me. It starts with me being kind and compassionate to myself. When I mess up, when I don't act in a way that I'm proud of, I give myself some grace.
Grace is accepting people for who they are, not trying to change them, not judging them. Just accepting them for who they are and appreciating all the good that they bring to my life. Grace is about being mindful of how I show up in the world, what I say, how I speak, how I act. It's about giving some consideration to how I want to feel about my life ten years from now.
Grace is about having compassion––for myself and others. When I don't think that someone is treating me fairly, I don't know their situation. I don't know where they're coming from that day. Maybe they're having a bad day, who knows. So I can be compassionate with them.
Grace is about apologizing when I know I have done something wrong. I reach out to the person that I have wronged, and I apologize, I make amends.
Grace is about having a sense of humor. When transitioning through divorce it's tough to laugh, but sometimes a good laugh is better than a good cry. I've always found humor to help me get through the tough times.
Grace is about practicing gratitude every day. I remember a few things that I'm grateful for and that helps me.
When you look back on your life, you’ll see that you made mistakes, and you didn’t handle everything perfectly. And that’s okay. You are human. You need to show yourself some compassion and realize that you tried your best. We’re all learning to be the best versions of ourselves and this takes time. It takes practice and patience.
So, grace is a practice you have to do every single day.
I hope to inspire you. I hope to give you that little boost of confidence that will help you move forward just a teeny bit to create massive shifts in your life, gracefully. Remember, you are strong, you are capable, and you are not alone.
Wendy
xoxo
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